nicnevyn

Long story most of the details of which I will not go into so as to protect the not so innocent. But basically some 6 months ago I had a very near scrape with an ”interesting” personality that is more than just a little well known for causing witch-wars. The way I dealt with it then was to take them at their word, when they signed off the flurry of e-mails I recieved over a number of days, which stated things like “This will be the last you hear from me”, “I will never contact you again” and other such affirmations; and didn’t respond. Eventually they did stop, and a few weeks later the furore died down.

So imagine my surprise when a few weeks ago, said person contacted me again, professing to want closure, professing to want to move on, professing to want to be able to clear the air so that the “moving on” process could be done with a lack of animosity. Yeah I know call me a bloody idiot, after weeks of thinking about it, reading and re-reading I figured that perhaps they were being genuine and an adult discourse that would enable this could ensue. Fool, fool, fool, fool!

It took me weeks to respond, writing and rewriting my responses, even getting a non involved and objective 3rd party to vet what I was saying. Now don’t get me wrong, what I had to say was harsh, but it was fair, neutrally worded and non confrontational. I knew I wasn’t going to make a friend from what I said, but that wasn’t what it was about, it was about disscussing like adults, clearing the air and moving on right? WRONG!

So in future if anybody ever contacts me in a similar manner I shall remember the words of my husband, when last night I showed him the angry and defensive emails that had dropped into my box during the day:

“they didn’t want a rational conversation that facilitated closure, they wanted to have the last word and can’t stomach the fact that you have replied and particularly in a manner that meant a few home truths were spoken”

So the lesson for today, is don’t EVER poke the nutters with a pointy stick, even when they are doing a very good job of pretending to be a rational human being.